Even when you prepare, it can be difficult after your loved one is deployed. Here are some things you can do to ease your mind during the transition.
Know your surroundings
If you move a lot because of various deployments or base reassignments, it’s a good idea to have an “Adventure Day” — either on your own or with your kids. Check out what is around the base and your new home. And, while you’re out, consider becoming familiar with the following people and places:
- Your neighbors
- Streets leading in and out of your neighborhood
- The closest police and fire stations
- The closest community center
- Neighborhood schools
An “Adventure Day” can be fun and will also show your family what is immediately surrounding your new home. Plus, knowing what is close by will help you feel safe in cases of emergency, such as natural disasters or trespassers.
Monitor your space
Monitoring your new home with the help of security equipment can also help you feel safer in an unfamiliar place. You may not want to purchase a traditional security system and sign up for an extended contract if you move a lot, but there are several new systems on the market that allow you to monitor your home without a contract. Many of these systems offer advanced security options:
- See video of what is happening inside your home
- Monitor comings and goings of people around your home
- Control lights and door locks via apps on your smartphone
Even though technology and social media give military families the ability to stay connected more than ever before, it’s best to keep some things private. Avoid scenarios that involve oversharing:
- Do not publically post that your soldier is being deployed
- Do not publically post where exactly your soldier is deployed
- Do not disclose combat-related information on private group pages
Information about a soldier being away could be compromising both for the unit and for you as a family member at home alone. Private information like that should remain private, for everyone’s safety.
Keep your routine
If you and your soldier have been in the area for some time before he or she deployed, try to stick to your same routine. Each routine will differ, but here are some common tricks for keeping up the appearance of your normal routine:
- Have friends and family come and go as usual
- Leave cars in front of the house when appropriate
- Start using lawn care and gardening services when made aware of deployment
- Don’t tie yellow ribbons or hang wreaths with yellow ribbons after deployment
Be aware of strangers
When your serviceperson is deployed, don’t feel like you have to stop talking to strangers (especially if you still want to have pizza delivered on Friday night) — but do be more mindful of who is on the other side of the door when the bell rings. When the doorbell rings, ask yourself some simple questions before opening the door:
- Are you expecting someone?
- Can the person at your door provide proper identification, like a government-issued ID?
- Is the person at the door wearing a company- or government-issued uniform?
- Does your HOA allow door-to-door salesmen?
- Have you seen this person in the neighborhood before?
Be aware of who is at the door and teach your children to use the peephole before opening the door. And, don’t forget that it is never wrong to simply leave the door shut and locked if you feel uncertain.
Keep things private
Discuss the deployment only with close friends, family members, and others who need to know. Keep information about the deployment and your new situation off social media. Educate children to ensure they don’t disclose that their parent is away.
Use the buddy system
Now that your significant other is no longer present to check in daily, it’s time to bring in backup. Set up a system with friends, family, or neighbors to communicate regularly. If your neighborhood has a Neighborhood Watch program, get involved. Forming these alliances will help you feel more secure and less alone.
Get rid of extra keys
If you normally leave an extra key somewhere outside your house, it’s time to move it. Instead of using a hide-a-key or sticking it under the mat, give the key to someone you trust who lives nearby.
Maintaining the safety of military families is important for both those at home and those abroad. You have enough to think about during a military deployment — you don’t need to add home security to the list. Use these savvy tips to prepare before deployment and keep your family safe until your loved one comes home.